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Nothing is permanent except change

I am always been afraid of settling in just one place. In my late twenties when my friends started to buy houses and making kids, I escaped to Paris. I rented a studio from the first arrondissment, and I was happy with my 10 square meters attic apartment where I wash the dishes in the toilet sink. I knew that it was just a temporary thing. Now with family and all, you kind of have to stay and settle in somewhere. You need to enter in the system. You know what I mean, right? But what if, that is the problem.

Lately, I got myself thinking of the future. Our contract to our current apartment will end in the end of August. Before that we need to make decisions. Are we going to stay in this apartment and continue pay the rent (not so wise!)? Should we buy our own little apartment? Or should we just get a camping car and have a moving home? Or maybe go to a world tour? Of course it would be wise to buy something, and then, if we decide to do so, we could always rent it – but… there is something that makes me unpleasant about this.

Every time we start to speak about owning something, I start to panic. Also, the experience of owning a house in Spain has opened my eyes for the reality, and the heaviness that owning a big house can bring. Now in Helsinki, we actually made an offer of one apartment. A couple of days I was in panic if the offer would be accepted or not. Luckily, it wasn’t, because obviously we weren’t ready. It wasn’t for us, and that’s ok. I also accepted that right a way.

“Nothing is permanent except change” For me, the message of this sentence has been difficult to adapt, because I tend to think, that “oh, now we are here, and we are going to stay here forever, and this is my life,” and then hits the panic. So when I started to actually adapt the message of this sentence, I found it really calming, because it is so true. Even if I would stay in the same place forever, nothing would stay the same in a long run. Things changes, I will get older and change my mind million times, my kids will grow up etc. In short terms I might be sad today, but tomorrow I will laugh and dance and love the world – this is how it goes: it is all changing all the time – and what a relief this is!

I am also lucky to have a husband who is really open mind about the future. When we bought the house in Alella, he told me, that this doesn’t have to be the rest of the life project. This I found calming, because if we do find something, it doesn’t have to mean that we are going to stay there forever.

Still, I sometimes find it stressful when someone asks “where do you see yourself in five years?” The honest answer is that I don’t know. At times I feel jealous of those who can settle in and stay where they are, and reply this question “right here”. But more I found my answer giving me freedom. I know that I will always fit in where I go, as does my family. ­ The most important thing is that we are together. Still, freedom is also to know that everything will change, not as much, but the change ­rests in the air. Or it might be that my root chakra is just a little bit gipsy-like, and that my place is a little bit here and there.

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I recently wrote about our decoration philosophy, and that our new apartment we are going to buy everything we can on second hand markets. So, now we are in our new place. It is time for a little analyze what did we buy and how did we succeed in our project.

Our budget for home décor was 1300 euros. This is the money we got when we sold our old stuff in our home in Spain before we moved to Finland. What did we get with this money? A lot, in the end we didn’t even use all. Before going through the list, I have to say that some of the home decoration stuff we brought from Spain to Finland by car, for example lamps, home textiles and some of the most important kitchen devices.

So here is the list:

This is what we got for free from our friends or found from dumpster:

rattan sofa + baskets

ktchen table and chairs

mattresses

two bureau

rack for shoes

stool

three chairs

pot

coffee machine

 

Bought as used:

child’s bed                                               40 e

couch                                                       50 e

terrace sofa and cushions                   165 e

plates                                                       20 e

other moving expense                          30 e

rocking chair                                          65 e

cottage table                                           70 e

bureau                                                     50 e

children’s armchair                              30 e

bedcover                                                   2 e

in total                                                    522 e

 

Purchased as new:

Kitchen’s side table                               99 e

Junior chair                                             50 e

Wooden step                                          10 e

Slatted bed place                                   60 e

Two houseplants and pots                    30 e

Two floor pillows                                    32 e

In total                                                    271 e

All together                                             793 e

 

How did it go?

I have to say, that most of the home decoration you can find in used and in good conditions, but this demand time and energy to be alert all the time. Also, there are some miscalculations, too. We bought some furniture really upmarket price, like that used terrace table and sofa with pillows. That was actually the most expensive piece of furniture that we bought! We got them from the former tenant. The same goes to the plates that we bought from him. We thought that he would leave in the apartment all the plates that he showed, but when we moved in there were only a half of them, and all the normal plates (that we actually needed) were missing. So that was too a shopping that was annoying afterwards, and I should have trusted my instinct that said no. Luckily, I cancelled all the other furniture that he wanted to sell us.

Otherwise I found really easy to buy home decoration from Facebook’s second hand markets and other online marketplaces. But this I did learn: you need to act immediately, check often what is available, and most of all, picking up the furniture you often needed a car. In many occasion, without a car, we couldn’t have bought the furniture that we wanted and as fast as we needed them. Also, we did face some logistics problems, like how to get that big cottage table from one place to a top of the car and then again to carry it to the sixth floor. Well in the end we found help from the place we bought the table and when we got to our place, I asked help from the street from two teenager boys who wanted to earn ten euros.

However, I found it tiring to hang in Facebook to find that special piece of furniture, but at time  that was rewarding. For example I was the first one to book a rocking chair, that 200 people were asking after me. Also, we found two bureaux for free, and when we went to pick them, we found in the same trip, by accident, from a dumpster a bureau for my husband.

I tried to avoid buying new things, but in the end, we needed to buy some necessary things, that were helping every day life. In our new kitchen there is hardly any cooking place, so a little side table was obligatory, the same goes to the junior chair. In our Airbnb place we had one and our daughter got used to it and we found it practical. And lets face it; it wasn’t nice to construct a chair for our girl by adding a carton box on top of the kitchen chair every day.

As you go through my list, you can notice that not all things were so necessary, like those plants or floor pillows, but I found them useful and they give comfortable atmosphere to our home. If we really wanted to go more zero waste what comes to our home, we could have do it, but so far, I found that we did a pretty good job.

I think for me, after packing and moving, I have started to let go on material things. All the ownership and buying new things make me uncomfortable. Our place I wanted to get to together fast, so we could actually start living here. For me, my decoration philosophy was to make a cozy home, and that is what I hope for our friends and family will experience too when  they come for a visit.

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Home Decor from a Rubbish

This week we are moving to a new unfurnished apartment, and of course my mind started to wonder around decorating our new space. Especially here in the north home and its decoration is super important. You know what I am talking about – Scandinavian designs and homes.

I even went to an annual Habitare fair which is a big decoration happening here in Helsinki. It didn’t help: there were all these beautiful and expensive furniture that I would happily take to our new home.

Then I started to wonder, wait a minute, what I am doing? And: which empty gap I start to fill with this decoration madness. Of course as a stylist I love beautiful and esthetic things. Beauty is important thing for me, and it does matter, in what kind of mug I drink my morning coffee and I do appreciate design things, but still, I like more homes that are imperfect – homes that you can actually see that people are living there. For me living almost five years abroad have thought me more laid-back attitude what comes about home decor. For me the cozy atmosphere is more important than perfect matching decoration. Actually, nowadays I get suspicious if I enter to a “perfect” home. I start to wonder: what is this person hiding? I get curious and I would like to look at that person’s fridge to see is there anything, does this person make lunch and dinners or is it just empty.

Ok, imperfect home is more my style than that Pinterest-style perfect, but I do have some principles what comes on colors and style of the furniture. As you might know, my intention for the new home is to buy almost everything in used and in low cost (who knows where we are in next year). So when the former inhabitant told me that he would sell us his Ikea furniture, like a sofa and a bed and some furniture for the terrace, I said yes, super! It would make our moving in so easy, but then I saw the price tag: he was asking from those things more than 500 euros, furniture that I didn’t even like. No way! I slept over the night and the following morning I wrote an email to say no for this proposal. I could not have made that cozy home, if I saw that grey sofa every day. I rather have without a sofa!

Then the universe listened.

I was returning to our Airbnb apartment, when I saw a little rattan sofa abandoned on a dumpster. I called to my mum (who came to visit us for a couple of days) and together we carried it to our place. At the same time from the dumpster I did some other findings too. I found a couple of rattan baskets, two footstools and a carpet. Just to renew the fabrics for the sofa and the footstool, and they will be fine!

And what about the other furniture? Our lovely landlady promised to give us a kitchen table and bed, which she will not need. Voilà, our zero waste home starts to be ready.

To summarize my decoration philosophy, it goes something like this: use your creativity, create cozy atmosphere and go more zero waste mentality in mind than making that copy of perfect Pinterest image home – after all the everyday happiness is somewhere else than in that perfect decoration.

And welcome to our home, anytime! You can even look our fridge!

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Let it go!

Often in the beginning of a yoga or meditation practice the teacher guide us to breath in with our nose and breath slowly out with our mouth and at the same time to let go of something we are holding in, like negative feelings, stress or nervousness.

This kind of meditation mantra is a part of my daily meditation moments. In concrete level this “let it go” process has been part of our life in the past couple of weeks now between this moving hell. Instead of carrying all the old stuff from Spain to our summerhouse in Brittany, we decided to say big NO. It seemed pointless to just put those things on hold and not to be sure, if we ever going to use them. So with help of our lovely neighbor we put on sale a lot of furniture, terrace chairs, two fridges and washing machines. And most of it, we sold very fast. It feels good to give those objects a new life, but also it feels good in that “let it go” level. It almost feels like all these old stuff was holding us back. Now I feel we have make space for something new.

And with new I don’t mean that we are going to replace the sold stuff with buying something new. Our idea is to use those money that we get from selling the furniture to decorate our new apartment with second hand furniture.

Also, I did this cleaning up ritual again in my wardrobe, too. As we only have a car that we are going to fill with all the everyday stuff and clothes that we will take to Finland, we have planned really carefully what we are going to take with us. This means intentional cleaning and letting go process in my wardrobe. I ended up giving (again) clothes to the charity shops, and now what is left is only my favorite ones. When going through my closet, I kept in mind this information: we only use about 10 percent of the content of our wardrobe. So why the hell should I bring all these clothes to fill the closets of our new apartment? Nope I won’t do that. This time everything is thought in a mindful way.

I have to say that a little by little, I start to breath in a more minimalistic lifestyle, and it seems to fit me inside and outside.

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Vielä muutama vuosi sitten haaveilin matkalaukkuelämästä: siitä että tiedossa häämöttäisi aina uusi maa, uusi kaupunki, uusi kulttuuri. Tai työstä, jossa pääsisi matkustamaan mahdollisimman paljon. En enää. Todellisuudessa jatkuvasti paikasta toiseen siirtyminen ja matkalaukkujen pakkaaminen on niin uuvuttavaa, että sana “loma” harvoin linkittyy matkalaukkuelämään – etenkään lapsiperheen kohdalla.

Kahden kuukauden reissaamisen aikana olemme pakanneet ja tyhjentäneet matkalaukkumme lähes kymmenen kertaa. Suomen-reissulla meillä oli eri majapaikkoja, joten toisinaan kävi niin, että matkalaukut ehti avata ja niistä sitten kiskottiin kiireessä puhtaita (lue: matkalaukussa ummehtuneita) vaatteita ja paineltiin suoraan illallistreffeille tai milloin minnekin. Kun sitten viimein pääsimme kotiin, totesimme kumpikin: ei vähään aikaan minnekään! Häämatka saa hetken odottaa.

Tajusin, että loma tarkoittaa meille sitä, että ollaan ihan vain kotona ja nautitaan siitä kivasta arjesta omine rutiineineen. Tämä lienee paras oivallus hetkeen, sillä siihen kulminoituu ajatus, että kaikki on hyvin juuri nyt. Edessä ei tarvitse häämöttää seuraavaa lomamatkaa, jonka voimin jaksaa rämpiä sen harmaan arjen, vaan se arki itsessään on jo ihanaa seikkailua. Nautin arkisista askareista: pyykinpesusta, omassa keittiössä puuhailusta, siivoamisesta, kaupassa käynnistä ja tietysti Pariisissa harhailusta rattaiden kanssa.

Haastavaahan se arki on toisinaan, tai oikeastaan usein, mutta oikeassa tiimissä jaksaa nauraa kaikelle: porkkanatahraisille vaatteille, uudelle paidalle oksennetuille maitotahroille ja jopa sille, ettei koskaan enää ehdi tehdä mitään.

Tai nyt huijaan, kuvat kertovat, että ehdin viettää jonninjoutavan hetken Grazia-lehden parissa. Hyvä niin.

Eläköön arki!

(Note: aina arkena ei kuitenkaan ehdi meikata, kuten kuvista näkyy.)

When I was younger, I dreamed about a life in which I could travel a lot. To visit new countries, new cities and to get to know new cultures. Always on the road – that would be cool, I thought. Or a job that allows you to travel a lot.

I disagree with the younger version of myself. Today I would say that everyone will get tired of traveling all the time at some point, and an in-between life is just a passage where you don’t want to be too long.

During the past two months of traveling in France and in Finland, I realized how tiring it is to change location and to pack and unpack your suitcases all the time. Especially from the point of view of a mother.

So after packing the suitcases for the 10th time and then heading back to home, I realized that this is kind a holiday for us: just being at home. Even though it does mean that I have less help, when I don’t have my mother around and my husband is doing his normal working hours, but still: the pleasure of doing laundry, cooking, cleaning and walking around in Paris. Of course our everyday life is intense like for most families. But when you are in the right team, all that mess and milk stains on your favorite shirt will make you laugh after all.

And when you say you never have time for yourself, it is not true… it is a question of point of view. Even ten minutes is a moment that you can use for drinking a cup of coffee or doing like me: for reading a magazine in silence. (Or maybe I am just dreaming.)

Note: A busy mother doesn’t always have time to put some makeup on, not even for the photos, and especially not when there is 30 degrees outside.

DIY project: the dress

Aiemmin kirjoitinkin itse tekemisen maagisesta voimasta. Viime aikoina omia tee-se-itse -projekteja ovat olleet piirtäminen, leipominen ja ompeleminen. Näistä jälkimmäisen tuotokset näette alta.

En olekaan hetkeen kaivanut ompelukoneita esille. Rehellisesti sanottuna yli kolmeen vuoteen. Viime helmikuussa ompelukone ja saumuri raahattiin aviomieheni kanssa matkalaukussa viimeisen muuttokuorman yhteydessä Tampereen Hervannasta Pariisiin. Siinä ne sitten ovat mököttäneet koskemattomina lähes vuoden työhuoneeni nurkassa, mutta eipä enää, sillä nyt ompelukone ja saumuri on koeajettu. Ja tätivainaani vanha Pfaff-ompelukone puksuttaa kuin mikäkin vanha konkari, ei merkkiäkään uupumisesta.

Ja mikä tekemisen riemu tästä kaikesta syntyikään. Palasin hetkeksi takaisin opiskeluvuosiini, kun päivät täyttyivät työtunneista – tuotesuunnittelusta ja kaavoituksesta vaatteen valmistamiseen. Silloin aika menetti merkityksen, kännykkä unohtui laukkuun, ja ahh taukokahvit ne vasta maistuivatkin hyvälle. Näitä fiiliksiä koin ompelukoneen surratessa pariisilaisolohuoneessa eräänä sunnuntai-iltapäivänä.

Otin mekkoa varten ohjeen vanhasta Suuri käsityö -lehdestä. Pitäydyin yksinkertaisessa projektissa: en heti lähtenyt revittelemään vaikeilla taskurakenteilla tai päärmäyksillä. Keskityin ensiksi vain elvyttämään vanhat taitoni. Haastavien ompelurakenteiden vuoro tulee kyllä aikanaan.

Ja kyllä: mekko on ollut käytössä jo useampaan otteeseen. Ja mikä mahtavinta, väljän mallinsa ansiosta mekko pukee myös pyöreävatsaista.

Earlier I posted about DIY projects and especially focusing on one semi-simple task from time to time, like filling in a coloring book or knitting a scarf. I wanted to return to my other DYI project, which was making a dress, and reactivating my sewing skills. Here you can see the results of my first sewing project.

During this project I felt grateful for many things, for example:

  1. A year after carrying my sewing machines all the way from Finland to France in a suitcase, I actually got started.
  1. I started doing, not just saying that I was going to do this. I picked up an old issue of a sewing magazine, found a simple pattern and started the project!
  1. The flow feeling when making something. Yes. I really got into this mood. During the weekend and a couple of afternoons that I spent on my project, I felt totally connected to what I was doing. I rediscovered the spirit in from back when I was studying fashion and making clothes: I lost track of time, forget about my phone for a while, felt happy about what I was doing, and oh boy, did the break coffee taste good!

In this DIY project I followed the rule of not making the first project too difficult. I just wanted to start doing and reactivate my old sewing skills. I didn’t want to choose too difficult pocket structures or sewing patters for this project – that time will come one day after a little practice. By the way: I already have my next sewing project in mind, and the fabrics that I ordered, just came in. Stay tuned!