This weekend we celebrate mothers, so I decided to write about how is life with two children and being a mum.
I am sure many of you parents think about the question “should we have another baby?” And: “when is the good time?”
For us, our second baby came by accident. To be honest, I wasn’t sure if I wanted another child. We started to get in that comfortable zone with our first one and we wondered if we had the energy to start all over again.
Well, we didn’t need to think a long time when I got pregnant after beautiful wedding we were adding near Paris, in an old castle. Everything was so perfect in that moment, that no wonder I got pregnant.
And I am so happy, that things went as they did, and we had this beautiful, smiling baby boy.
In general, in life, I have started to believe even more, that things go as they are intented.
Also, I have find out, that the baby year seems much easier than it did with the first one. Of course it depends how the baby is, but for me, the idea that I am already a mother makes everything so much easier. I have that silent confident that effect of course to my baby, too. I also feel more calm and relaxed.
Also, I have made a peace with that, that I am not a perfect mother, but I try to do the best I can.
So to have a second child, for me (so far) it has been a beautiful thing, it is incredible how you can share love, and how the feeling of being a family strengthen.
Of course there are downsides. You are busier than ever. And the relationship time is so limit, that you can only dream of it. I totally understand that many couples separate when the children are small, because it is hard at times, and there a much more fights than there used to have before kids. I have accepted that this is normal, and for us, it is important that we can always kiss and make up, solve things out, love and try to find solution.
The one thing that you should realize is, that mostly the fights start because both of you are tired, or you just need to have quality time together. To this conclusion I have come to.
To sneak beak how the life is with little children, I made a list of things that I have noticed so far…
This is how you recognize that you are mother of small children, when…
You don’t have a boring moment in your life, or you don’t know what to do next.
There is always someone in your lap.
Someone is always hungry.
The laundry basket fills in a day.
In wintertime (in Finland) dressing up the children demands tears, negotiation and sweat. (You are lucky if you live in a warmer country!)
You know if someone is saying that the family life is easy, that she/he is lying, or the family has a 24/7 extra help.
You have started to forget things.
You have become a talent of multitasking.
You are more effective than ever!
You know that family holidays means a working camp – not a holiday!
Diseases circulate in the whole family.
You don’t remember when was the last time you slept seven hours a round.
The only thing that you dream of is a good night sleep and sleeping alone.
A playground is your second living room.
You are sorting small clothes to give away and updating kids wardrobe all the time.
When you are having girls’ night out, you don’t want to talk about children.
And after everything, you feel so grateful of these small wonders, and lucky that you are still married.
Love, it makes everything better.
So congratulations to you, mother. You know you are doing a great job!
Have a wonderful Mother’s Day!